Do Men Lose Their Sex Drive…
There is one simple answer to this question, and although this is usually against the rules of decorum, I have to answer the question with yet another question: Are you stupid, woman?
What kind of idiot would think that a man loses his sex drive?
This must be an excuse developed by female psychologists, because as educated and rational as they may be, they don’t have a pig hanging between their legs and thus still, secretly or not, dream of a safe, Utopian relationship with a kind-hearted, loving man. And so they have to rationalize the inevitable: after a few months, that kind-hearted, loving man doesn’t want to fuck anymore. And so they ask themselves, “What caused him to lose his sex drive?” Are you stupid, woman? You clearly let yourself go and/or just got boring! Shed some poundage and break out some new moves.
Or invite your cute girlfriend…
Just this weekend, my cousin was telling a group of us how great things were going with her new boyfriend, how great things still were after a year and a half together, but the only problem was that he had lost his sex drive. She just didn’t understand why he only wanted to have sex two/three times a week. She went on and on about how she has such an appetite for sex and her poor boyfriend really only wants to bang a couple times a week.
Yes, I gave it to her. She’s family, after all. I handed her the truth so that she could learn and deal with life more completely. I said, “What are you, stupid? He did not lose his sex drive, dummy, he simply doesn’t want to fuck you anymore.” I can guarantee that when this guy who never wants to fuck my cousin is out at a bar and he sees a hot piece of ass, he immediately thinks, “Fuck I would love to bang that bitch!” His sex drive is in perfect working order.
I would go as far as to say that just about every single chic I ever meet, I think about fucking in some way or other, even if she’s ugly and I don’t really want to. It’s nothing against our girlfriends, but let’s face it: we are dogs at heart and we just want to chase pussy.
Aside: Look at it like this. How much do you love steak? A nice thick, aged juicy piece of steak? Fucking delicious right? Right! But there is no way in hell that you could eat that exact same piece of meat every single night of the week and still enjoy it as much as you would if you had it once a week. Yes, the second of the week is still good, and the third…well by then we are just eating it so that we don’t have to explain why we lost our Steak Drive.
Men have never and will never lose their sex drive; they simply don’t want to fuck the same piece of ass every day. This is a fact. And yes, sometimes we just want to jerk off. It’s not like we have a sickness, it’s just that we get to jerk off and then all we have to do it clean our pig and wash our hands. No cuddling, no talking and no foreplay. I had foreplay all night long checking out those chicks with no bras on…
Advice: Give your chick at least two or three bangs a week and a good vibrator.
They need to understand that we are not like them. Yes I may love you and everything, but that doesn’t mean that I want to fuck you every day! We have to train them to understand this and accept it. Sometimes I like to eat a boring piece of halibut during the week just to make that steak all the better at the weekend. Don’t tell them that you want to fuck other chicks because that will definitely get you in the dog house and by dog house I mean a long drawn out conversation that you have to explain with lies. Just establish a rule of thumb and don’t be one of those jerks who feels insecure when their girlfriend likes to masturbate with a vibrator.
You got lucky, bud!
Commentary, JBIC, Men's Interest, Misadventures in Dating - The Book
So, what do you say to a man when he becomes boring and the woman just is no longer in interested in having the same piece of “steak” night after night? He asks “Why did you lose your sex drive?”. Now, I don’t want to be a bitch when responding honestly (avoiding that hour long conversation and pissing him off, etc.)…so how do I sugar coat it?
Tell him the truth, you want a real New York man that knows how to please you in every way.
What about when a man is really tired and stressed from work, and just wants to go to bed… day after day…? Does that mean he doesn’t want to do you anymore? What does it mean when he just comes and lays next to you and cuddles his head in your chest… maybe it really is that he just isn’t up to it? Is that possible? Sometimes stress and worry bogs a man down?
I guarantee if he sees a chic he wants to nail, he will most definitely fuck her. Trust me, when the market started tanking, my sex drive may have slowed down, but it was still there for the hot piece of Lebanese intern ass I turned out.
Harper: He’s not too tired for sex, he’s just too tired for sex with you. If he were more turned on, he’d find the energy. And, you can always just try getting on top for a change. We really do appreciate the effort.
BL1Y good to see you’re alive and kicking
Yeah, I agree. No man is ever too tired for sex. I’ve had many instances with my bf when he’s tired and he LOOKS exhausted, but the minute I put on lingerie, he’s up and running! I know the second it stops working is the second he is no longer into me, based on the fact that, every other time, when he’s been “exhausted” and stressed, I still seduced him to please me
When you have to start trying, his interest is feigning…
The boy did rebound – but he had a slump – and I think it was legit.
Run him through the test…
Thanks for noting that yes, women, you do need to put forth some effort to seduce your man. This means in both the long and short term. Hit the gym and skip the cupcakes to stay in shape, but also do the little things like wear sexy underwear, or actually initiate sex (and asking for a backrub doesn’t count).
@HARPER
Congrats, your man broke up with the other girl he was seeing.
Cas: Get threaded comments please.
@BL1Y
I think its threaded now, theme dependent…
I don’t think once a woman has to try his interest is feigning. I think both have to put forth the effort to show interest. It’s a turn-on when the other person wants you and makes the effort, can’t be a one sided street.
RSSNGirl: I think he probably is losing interest at that point, it’s just a question of degree. Needing to seduce your man isn’t a bad place to be, it means your man actually has some respect for himself and thinks he could get another woman if you left (which is a good thing for women, because it means he actually likes you and isn’t with you out of fear of not getting anyone else).
But, when he stops trying to seduce you, that’s when there’s trouble.
I agree, but he still seduced me more than I seduce him because he knows if he stops he’ll lose me; I just like to mix it up and surprise him when he comes home from work “exhausted”.
@BL1Y
Do you think that if you stop, you’ll lose him? If not, just how low is this guy’s self esteem?
@BL1Y Nope, not worried about losing him. He is very confident and secure, he is older & doesn’t play the immature-childish games. He mainly has to worry because I am so much younger and am very independent, which is something he is not used to overall, but he’s learning to adjust.